Life has truly been interesting for me these past couple of months. I have embarked on several new adventures, and I must say a few of these adventures have been mind blowing.
One of the new adventures I embarked on is a new job. While it still isn’t my ultimate dream career, it is something that will allow me to gain a new valuable skill for when the time does come for me to take possession of my ultimate dream job. Yes, I know many of you may feel like I am being very vague, but in all fairness if you have read any of my other post you should know that my dream job is to be a full time writer. Although I must admit my actions don’t always indicate that as my dream.
One of my favorite audibles right now is Steve Harvey’s, “Think Like A Success, Act Like A Success.” Although I have the book as well, I love the audible because I can listen to it while in traffic, which helps to reduce my stress and road rage significantly. Anyway, one quote that Steve often says is, “Life is 10% what happens to you, and 90% what you do about it.” Chew on that for a minute. Now think about the various things that have happened to you and made you feel like that was the end. What did you do in response? Did you take the outcome as the end, or did you figure out how to move past that moment and make the best out of the situation?
I will admit, at various times in my life I have in fact been that one who felt like things kept happening to me, and there was nothing I could do about it but accept what was dealt to me. It often triggered me to expect and accept far less than I should have. Then I blamed everything that happened to me on everyone and everything else. It was always someone else’s fault why I didn’t get the promotion, why my finances weren’t in great shape, why I kept choosing the wrong mate for relationships, and why I wasn’t able to really move forward in life the way I wanted to. Then I was introduced to the word accountability.
Sure there were some unfortunate things that have happened in my life, and it wasn’t all someone else’s fault. Some things I actually contributed to, but just because it didn’t work this time doesn’t mean that I should give up. Maybe it wasn’t the right opportunity (job, relationship, car, etc.), or maybe it simply wasn’t the right time. Most successful people fail many times before they make it to their “big break.” When they fail they simply dust themselves off and get back up and try it again. It doesn’t mean that their failures didn’t hurt or disappoint them. It simply means that they got back up and tried again.
So today ask yourself, is my life being controlled by the 10% that happens to me, or the 90% that I am doing about it? As always I thank you for stopping by. Remember to be friendly, show favor, and give love!
Today is a great day! The wind is in my hair, and the sun is shining on my face. The season is changing, and I’m not just talking about the weather. I have been silent for most of the past few months, and honestly it wasn’t on purpose. It’s just before I knew it days turned into months, and nothing had been written. Today that is changing.
For the first time in a very long time, I actually feel like myself again. I actually feel free to be me. I don’t know about you, but sometimes circumstances and situations can make you feel a little off balance. I’ve been in that place for a while now, survival mode. That mode where literally you keep your nose down to the grind so much, you don’t take the time to look up and take in what’s happening around you. The seasons are changing and you don’t even know it, because you are focused on surviving.
Surviving what you ask? It could be surviving financially, emotionally, physically, or mentally. For each person, their “survival mode” could be different. I’m sure almost everyone understands the financial survival. You’re basically just trying to make ends meet. As my former Pastor would say, “You got more month left than you do money.” Now I think emotional and mental survival go hand and hand. Emotional survival can make you play Jedi mind tricks on your ownself sometimes; and sometimes you can get so emotionally over whelmed that you feel like you are going to suffer a mental break. Then there are times when mental survival simply can stand on its own. Sometimes you can be emotionally stable, but have so many things coming at you at one time, that mentally you become stressed and overwhelmed, again feeling like you may suffer a mental break. So to avoid all of the above you go into a numb place called, “Survival Mode.”
Today though, I am making a conscious effort to stop, look up, and take in what’s going on around me. I’m so glad that I am, because the season is changing in my life, and I don’t want to miss it. I don’t want to miss the chance to breathe easy. I don’t want to miss the opportunity to see just how much my children are growing and blossoming. Most of all, I don’t want to miss the chance to experience my own growth and development. I want to live and truly enjoy what life has to offer me. Despite how close or far my life seems to be from “my ideal” dreams, goals, and accomplishments, I am grateful for my life and the blessings that I have received. Could somethings have been done differently, absolutely! Could somethings have been better, absolutely! But, it doesn’t change the fact that I am still blessed. I can now say for sure that life is what you make it. There is an up and down side to everything, but its up to you which view you choose to focus on.
As always thank you for stopping by, remember as you go through your day to Be Friendly, Show Favor, and Give Love.
The other day, I sat and watched as Baltimore City experienced pure chaos, wondering if my friends and family that lived there were ok. Many of the areas affected, I have been through at various times during my visits to the city. I can only imagine the heart break the residents were feeling as they watched their neighborhood businesses be looted and practically burned to the ground. I was glued to the TV unable to disconnect. I watched as some expressed their anger, others their dismay, and others take a stand against those rioting and looting. I listened as this one woman cried out, “Where are the community leaders? Who is in charge? Why aren’t these community leaders down here?”
The interesting thing is toward the end of last year, I found myself saddened as many of the few remaining civil rights activist passed away. A lot of the history, determination, and civil fight went with them. I thought to myself then, “Who is going to pick up this torch now? Who is going to lead us through the next wave of the new civil rights movement?” In this day and time, there seems to be a huge disconnect between where we’ve been, and where we are going. I remember once reading a quote that said, “If you don’t know your history, you are bound to repeat it.” With this disconnect, I feel like we are finding ourselves repeating some of our history. There are lessons and wisdom that should be passed down from generation to generation, but some where along the line some of these very vital bits of information got lost. And please let me be clear, when I say “we” and “us”, I am talking about we the American People.
While I realize I am definitely not destined to be a community activist, I do have a role and a major part to play in bridging the gap. What is my part? Educate, mentor, counsel, and nurture those who come across my path, especially those of the younger generation. I was so relieved and inspired when I saw how much of a difference one day made in Baltimore. Religious leaders of all different faiths, community leaders, street leaders, all came together to try to bring peace and educate those who were angry and eager to get their point across. I loved that they opened their doors to bring people in and show them, this is how you protest, this is how you keep the conversation on the heart of the matter. Other cities are joining in and protesting in their own home towns. Now, we are rising as a people, an American people to say, “Enough is Enough!”
So what is the point of today’s post? The point is do your part. You may not be the lead, the understudy, or the co-star. You may be a prop or a stage hand, but whatever you are, you are a part of the supporting cast. Find your place, and do your part. Our society and children need you. As always thank you for stopping by, remember as you go through your day to Be Friendly, Show Favor, and Give Love.
I know it’s been a while. So much has happened in these past few months. I’m telling you, it is so easy to lose track of time. My internet went down and before I knew it days turned into weeks, and weeks turned into months since I had written anything.
Needless to say the clock totally resets on my #365 project. I’m going way back to double-dutch on the playground days, and crying, “Do Over!” I need another chance to get this thing right.
In the spirit of getting things right, I am so excited and thankful today to be celebrating not just another day of life, but another YEAR of life! It certainly could have been another way, but today I get to try and be better than I was yesterday; and I get a chance to make this upcoming new year of life better than my last. Learning from mistakes, and applying the lessons I’ve learned. DO OVER!
Well, that’s all for today. As always, thank you for stopping by, and I wish you and yours a safe and wonderful day!