Getting to the Finish Line

Inspirational, Integrative Health & Wellness



When you set out to accomplish your vision, goals, and dreams, you have to know that you’re going to go through something to get to its fruition. As we move forward this year in pursuit of our visions and dreams, there are three things you must know that will help navigate these often emotional waters.

First, you must let go of how you thought it would be. When our vision and dreams are revealed to us, we automatically begin imagining what it will be like to fulfill it, and we set our expectations based on that imagination. The excitement of the end result often leads us straight to the glory of the accomplishment, but leaves us short on the expectations of what it will take to get there. Because we have already set our expectations of what we think the process will be like, when obstacles and distractions enter the picture, we have a hard time adjusting. What you have to understand is not making the adjustment, and continuously remaining focused on what you envisioned the process to be like will keep you frustrated, angry, dismayed, and blinded to the opportunities for growth and development in your situation.

You also need to get comfortable with being uncomfortable. It’s easy to sit back and go with the flow, but the flow isn’t always going in the direction that’s best for you. The Holy Bible says it best, “Everything is permissible, but not everything is beneficial.” When you sit back and go with the flow the current carries you, and usually doesn’t require you to do much work. You’re able to just coast through life. But it’s the rough waters, rocky terrain, hills, and valleys, that uncomfortable friction and stretching, that develops you. In the words of Denzel Washington, “Ease is the greatest threat to progress.” So if you really want to live a full life, and see your visions and dreams manifest, you must get comfortable with being uncomfortable.

Finally, you must learn to utilize S.E.I. , Spiritual Emotional Intelligence. What is that? It’s the capacity to be aware of, control, and express your emotions, while being spiritually centered. While emotions are a natural human response, in most cases we are responding to circumstances and situations on a surface level without knowing or looking at the big picture. Yes, there will be disappointments, setbacks, misunderstandings, and general distractions. There will be times when you want to quit, and the way seems too hard. But during these times, you must remember to stay spiritually centered.  Take your focus off of the problem, spiritually center yourself, and put your eyes back on the big picture. By doing this, you will become solution driven and able to discern opportunities for growth and development along your journey. If you’re emotionally all over the place you will self sabotage every time.

While life may not be presenting you with the picture of what you thought it would be, don’t allow your expectations, comfort, and emotions to take you on a ride that leads you further away from your ultimate goal. As always, thanks for stopping by. Please like, share, and follow this blog. And remember, today is a great day to make a difference in the lives of those around you. 

Mindset Matters




It seems to be customary that at the start of a new year resolutions are made, visions are set, and goals are established. But does life really magically change just because the calendar turns from December 31st to January 1st? Of course it doesn’t. So how do you manage to flip the switch to be successful in the new year?

The primary key to successfully accomplishing your vision and goals for the new year is your mindset. If you go haphazardly at your new vision and goals with your previous mindset, expect failure. The reason most people create resolutions and update their vision is because they’re looking for a change. If what you were doing and thinking worked, you would not be looking for something new. The only exception to this is if you’ve actually accomplished your previous goals and visions, and you are updating to the next level. But even then a mindset adjustment may be necessary, because what you did for the previous level may not work for the new level. Preparing your mind for your new journey will allow you to gain perspective and look at things from a fresh point of view.

You will also need a plan. There is a popular saying and quote that says, “if you fail to plan, then you should plan to fail.” This is where you need to set actionable steps that will lead you down the path to your ultimate vision. I like to call this your “Plan of Action.” These are the tasks, assignments, and measures that need to be completed in order for your ultimate vision or resolution to be accomplished. It is your blueprint. Taking time to brainstorm and map out the goals and steps needed to accomplish your resolution and vision in the beginning, will save you greatly on time and unnecessary mistakes along the way. 

Finally, you must constantly check-in and assess your progress regularly. This is where you will see just how effective your plan of action is, and if you are actually meeting the goals and measurements needed to accomplish the task at hand. If you find that something is not working, or that you are missing the mark on your goals, here is where you would make the necessary adjustments to get back on track and begin moving forward again. Just because something is not working the way you expected or wanted it to, doesn’t mean you should chuck or give up the whole idea. Sometimes just a few minor adjustments is all you need. However, if you discover that the path you are on is totally not for you or where you should be, it’s nothing wrong with acknowledging you’re on the wrong path, and re-establising a new direction based what is best for you.

So as you move forward to accomplish your goals, remember these key elements to bringing forth your vision. It can be done if you spend a little more time preparing for your journey. As always, I thank you for stopping by. I hope you’ve enjoyed this quick message. Remember today is a great day to make a difference in the lives of those around you, and don’t forget to like and share this helpful tip. Enjoy your day!

Cater to Your Strength


Image courtesy of Asia Speaks

HAPPY NEW YEAR! As we enter into another year, and begin to set our vision and goals, I want to encourage each of you to cater to your strengths. So often in life we spend countless hours focusing on improving our weaknesses. But the one thing we miss is the areas that we are strong in. We each have different areas that we naturally excel in, and when we come together working in our strengths, the puzzle gets completed. 

As you work toward your goals and vision in this new year, be sure to operate in your strengths to accomplish them. Once I discovered the value of my strengths and the areas that I was strong in, I applied them to different areas of my life. I began to see myself soar and move forward, especially in the areas of my career and business. 

So today, I encourage you rather than focus on improving in the areas you are weak, discover and hone in on your strengths, and let them soar you to your next level. 

As always, I thank you for stopping by. Remember today is a great day to make a difference in the lives of those you encounter! Also, don’t forget to like, share, and subscribe to this blog so that you don’t miss a beat. 

The Turning Point




This year has been one amazing year.  What’s even more amazing is it all kicked off when I decided to embrace my authentic self, move out of my comfort zone, and put some action toward my dreams and goals.

Literally one year ago I encountered the conversation that would change the course of my life. That day I was forced to take an honest look at myself, and be accountable for the role I played in my dreams and goals not being accomplished. That day I made the conscious decision to kick my excuses to the curve and start walking, even though I couldn’t see the rest of the staircase. Now, I’m not only a published Author, but an Amazon Best Selling Author; I’m speaking at conferences across the nation; and I’m a certified Life and Holistic Health & Wellness Coach. Can you say an active year?

Today, I want to encourage you to not give up. No matter how far away you seem to be from your dreams. Don’t give up. Sometimes, it’s just a matter of us changing our perspectives and putting action towards our goals. I’ve said it many times, I had every excuse in the book for why I couldn’t pursue my dreams. In the end, I discovered how to use those very things to be my catalyst. I changed my perspective, and learned how to say, “No,” or “Not right now,” as well as how to better manage the time I do have available. Every minute counts. Although you can’t do anything about the time that has passed, you can make good use of the time you still have.

I hope this short message has been inspirational and encouraging. As always I thank you for stopping by. Remember today is a great day to make a difference in the lives of those around you, so be Friendly, Show Favor, and Give Love.

Authentically You


As I celebrate my personal National Holiday, my birthday, I sit and look at my life in awe. I remember as a child I would always wonder what I would look like, and where I would be when I was 20, 30, 40, etc. I am so grateful that I have been able to now see all of those milestones.  

In my 20’s, I spent my time hopping on different roads trying to figure out where the heck I was going. In my 30’s, I spent a lot of time being frustrated from all the u-turns I had to make, from all the wrong turns, and turns I missed driving without clear directions. Now at the turn of 40, I am finally on the right road, headed in the right direction, and constantly checking my GPS to make sure I stay on the right route.  

No, it has not been easy, but it hasn’t been all bad either. If I were to speak with my younger self today, this is what I would tell her. First and foremost, embrace your uniqueness, and never trade it in to be a carbon copy of someone else. Dating is cool, but don’t get hung up on it. If he doesn’t see the beauty and value in you, then it’s his loss, not yours. That gift that’s inside of you to write and tell stories, own it and hone it! It was given to you for a reason, and while it may not be the norm and make sense to others, stick with it. It will take you places beyond what you could ever dream.

If you are seated at the table, you belong there even when it doesn’t feel like it. Be confident, yet humble, and always show gratitude. Always be ready to learn from those who go before you, encourage those who walk with you, and teach those that follow you. Don’t fault God for the failures and disappointments of people, they have the right to choose just as you. Keep God as your center and compass, and always, always remember to authentically be you!

As always, I thank you for stopping by. I hope this encourages you. Remember today is a great day to make a positive difference and impact in the lives of those around you by being friendly, showing favor, and giving love! Peace and Blessings unto you!

If You Nurture It…




“If you nurture it, it will grow.” – T. Lynn Tate

As I sit here today, my heart is filled with gratitude. There are so many things I am grateful for, but today I am going to focus on just one, at least that’s my plan. 

A couple of months ago, I embarked on a journey to write my first novel. Although I had briefly talked about writing a book before, I had never put any real effort toward it. So, up until recently it was just an idea, or rather a seedling. The interesting thing is once I put some action toward the idea almost instantly it began to take root and grow. I went from bouncing around the idea of writing a book to setting deadlines and goals for completing the book, to now being at the end of writing and editing the book. 

It has not been easy. Though the soil was fertile for the idea, there were still some rocks and other inhibitors that had to be removed from the area. The conditions were not always perfect and sunny, but I pushed to nurture and tend to the needs of my idea seedling. To my amazement my seedling not only produced one bud, but another bud sprung up as well. Now instead of one book, I have two books releasing in the same year, one of my own and the other a collaboration.

Just think, had I not put action toward my idea, the other opportunity wouldn’t have been presented. I always talk about the law of attraction, and this is why. As I continued to work on my book, my network circle started to change. I began to meet other authors, editors, investors, etc., that are able to mentor and guide me on this journey.  

So today, I encourage you to stop dreaming and put some action toward your goals and dreams. Even if it’s 10 minutes a day, do something to put you one step closer to your dream. Again, though not easy, continue to push, because if you nurture it, it will grow. 

As always, I thank you for stopping by. I hope this encourages you. Remember today is a great day to make a positive difference and impact in the lives of those around you by being friendly, showing favor, and giving love! Peace and Blessings unto you!

The Next Level


Happy New Year!

Every year about this time, I take an assessment of my life, of where I am, and what I have accomplished. This year, I can truly say that I ended 2016 in a good place. So for 2017, my goal is to take it to the next level. The question I now ask myself is, “What am I willing to do to get to the next level?”

One of the things I am going to do is set SMART (Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Realistic, Time-bound) goals. SMART goals will help establish the blue print to accomplish your dreams. As you reach each milestone, the feeling of accomplishment will propel you, and build even more momentum to keep pushing for the finish line.

I will purposefully carve out time daily to work on my craft. Regardless of your profession or industry, if you are not putting in time to hone your craft and work toward your goal, you cannot expect maximum performance and results. Athletes work out almost daily, even during their off seasons. Why, because it keeps them in shape and prepared for the next season. Everyday you should be working on something that will put you one or more steps closer to your desired goal.

Last but certainly not least, I will identify and connect with other individuals who have successfully accomplished what I am trying to do. If you are at the top of the food chain in your circle of friends and associates, then you are hindering your growth potential. It is wise to have three types of people in your life at all times, someone you can learn from (mentor), someone you can lean on (peer), and someone you can share your knowledge with (mentee). I can truly say whether it was switching to a more holistic lifestyle, building my business, or even writing; once I linked up with mentors in the areas of my desired goals, I started to see a difference in my success level.

Now I’m not saying this is going to be the end all be all for me getting to my next level, but it is certainly a start. I encourage you to really take time to plan out your strategy to accomplish your goals this year. One of my favorite quotes is, “If you fail to plan, plan to fail.” Don’t miss out on all that 2017 has to offer you, because you didn’t have a plan of action.

As always, I thank you for stopping by. I hope this encourages you. Remember today is a great day to make a positive difference and impact in the lives of those around you by being friendly, showing favor, and giving love! Peace and Blessings unto you!

Hidden Commitments



Sometimes the greatest distance between you and your goal is you. My life has taken a very interesting and active turn of events in the past couple of weeks. Some of you may have already noticed but this blog now contains a link for a campaign to fund my book project. Yes, I have taken the leap and put some action behind my words. If you love or even like the material I share on this blog, please consider and donate to my campaign. Your donations are truly appreciated, and will be put to good work.

So, a week or so ago I reached out to an author friend of mine to purchase a few of her books. After speaking with her for two hours, I had set the deadline for completing my book, picked the title, established the day of my first book launch and signing, and obtained a book writing coach and mentor amongst a few other things. It wasn’t until I got off the phone that I realized what had just happened. I won’t lie, I am both extremely excited and nervous, BUT I am moving forward. Since that conversation, everyday I have a list of things related to this project I must complete. Truthfully speaking, it has been challenging at times getting my daily tasks completed. The amazing thing is I have been very aware of the things that contribute to me being distracted. Let me explain.

Some time ago my cousin attended a seminar in which one of their topics was “Hidden Commitments.” The definition she gave me was hidden commitments are the things that get in the way or prevent us from fulfilling the goals and commitments we make. As I have journeyed through these past couple of weeks, for once I can say I actually took notice and was very aware of the things that distract me and pull me off task when I am trying to accomplish something. It didn’t fail that everytime I sat down to write there was something else that all of sudden needed to be done. Some of it came from outside sources (i.e. family, friends, anybody else needing something), and then other times it was simply me. I would sit down, and all of sudden run through the list of things that I needed to do. If it wasn’t the laundry, it was cooking. If it wasn’t cooking, it was cleaning or going to pick up something else that I had forgotten. I mean everything except sitting still and writing. Normally, I would instantly get up and go do or address whatever it is that came up, but not this time. This time there was something in me that said, “No, it can wait,” and wait it did.

I am amazed at how much I have gotten accomplished by being aware of my hidden commitments, and having the power to say, “No, I will deal with you when I’m done.” Now this doesn’t mean that I was neglectful of my family or my responsibilities. No, no I did, however use wisdom to know when there was something that truly needed to be handled at that time, or if it was something that could wait. I don’t know about you, but too often I put the needs of others before my own. That’s not necessarily a bad thing, it just shouldn’t be the case all the time. One of the mantra’s I once heard at a business conference was, “If it’s to be, it’s up to me.” If we are to accomplish any of the goals, commitments, and dreams that we set, we have to set aside time solely dedicated to the tasks necessary to accomplish our goals. Most importantly we have to learn to say, “No, not right now. It can wait.” Today, I challenge you to set aside time each day to work on the tasks and assignments that need to be accomplished in order for you to reach your goal; and during those set times be laser focused on your goal at hand. Be like the Practicing Mind, don’t multitask, and see how much more productive you feel and get accomplished.

As always, I thank you for stopping by. I hope this encourages you. Remember today is a great day to make a positive difference and impact in the lives of those around you by being friendly, showing favor, and giving love! Peace and Blessings unto you!

It Can Be Done


Writers write, at least that is what I’m told.  I call myself a writer, but writing is one of the major areas I struggle in.  Not in the formation of words and thoughts, but more so just in the act of sitting down and doing it.  I come up with great thoughts and ideas quite often.  The problem is most of those thoughts come at a time when I am no where to record or write them down.  So by the time I am in a place to do so, the moment has passed, the thought is gone, and for the life of me I can’t remember it.  I am an awesome, gifted, and influential writer.  Yet I can’t seem to find it within myself to re-establish writing on a daily basis.  Then I sit and cry when I’m watching shows that honor people that are out here truly honing their crafts and making a difference, as well as their mark on this world.  I cry because I know that I should be doing the same.  I cry from the frustration of knowing what I should be doing, but yet am not.  I cry because it is no fault of anyone except my own.

It’s not easy breaking habits and routines, especially when they are seemingly engraved and embedded in your muscle memory.  The momentum is in full swing and you are going at such a fast pace, but now you have to come to a screeching halt and change direction.  It’s not easy breaking habits and routines, but it can be done.   Today, since this blog is called Recognizing the Real Me, I thought I would let you in and observe me as I deal with me. I am going to take a page from Brene Brown, and I am going to be vulnerable and allow you to see what it’s like when I am dealing with myself.

My business mentor called me yesterday to check up on me.  I expressed to him that right now I am in a fight with myself, old self vs. new self.  My old self, based on some current events, is constantly reminding me of how things have gone in the past.  My new self is talking back and reminding me, “that was then, this is now.”  Just because that was how it happened back then, doesn’t mean it has to be the same outcome now.  It is all based on the choices and decisions that I make.   I have the choice to decide to do something different this time.  I have come to the realization that others can encourage me, believe in me, and hope for the best for me; but until I believe it for myself nothing will change.  Today, I am choosing to get up, dust myself off, encourage myself, and move forward.  Then tomorrow, I will get up and do the same again, until my muscle memory has been reprogrammed with the habits and routines that will yield me a life lived on purpose headed to my destiny.

As always, I thank you for stopping by.  I hope this encourages you.  Remember today is a great day to make a positive difference and impact in the lives of those around you by being friendly, showing favor, and giving love!  Peace and Blessings unto you!

Be The Change


“Use your own power to be the change you want to see.”
-Nina Shaw

I love the experience of moments filled with inspiration. To me there is nothing like having the lights come on, and suddenly everything becomes clear. One of the things I have been diligently working on is owning who I am. Not who people want or think I should be, but who I am at my core. The things that make my heart beat, and make my socks go up and down. The things that make me happy, and bring joy to my life, and the things that fuel my passion and help me to feel like I am really making my mark on this world.

In today’s society, it is very easy to get the lines of who you are and who society says you are, or should be, confused.  Especially, when you don’t really know who you are. At my core I love to make a difference. I love to positively impact the lives of those I encounter. By nature I am a nurturer.  I care about the feelings and lives of others even sometimes to a fault, but that is who I am. I am not one who likes to sit around and talk, but one who searches out results. Sometimes I exhaust myself trying to do everything, because once an idea gets a hold of me I am obsessed with it and must research, plan, and figure out a way to make it happen.

As I sat watching the Essence Black Women in Hollywood Awards, I started to feel that obsession rise up in me. The final words of Nina Shaw’s acceptance speech stuck to my ribs like glue, “Use your own power to be the change you want to see!”  I mentioned in a previous post that this year I was going to get back to the business of doing rather than just talking. You see my dreams aren’t just made up of visions of fame and wealth, no my dreams include making a difference in my community and eventually the world. No matter how messed up things may seem to be, I want to do my part to bring healing, hope, encouragement, faith and wholeness to those who have been broken by various circumstances in life. Since I don’t like to put limits on my possibilities, that is just the start because I don’t know what this passion will blossom into to after that.

I love her charge, because it is time for all people to stop passing the buck and waiting for others to make the change. We are empowered, and it starts with us. It starts with our choices and decisions. You don’t like how the political landscape looks, then get up, vote, and research your candidates. Stop allowing bias and slanderous media ads to help you determine your candidate choice. Know what they truly stand for before you put your vote in for them. You think children today don’t have enough good roles models in their life, then become a mentor and take time to positively contribute to the molding and shaping of a child’s life. Use your power to be the change you want to see!

As always, I thank you for stopping by, and please know I truly appreciate your time. Remember today is a great day to make a positive impact in the lives of those around you. So be sure to Be Friendly, Show Favor, and Give Love