The Importance of Showing Up

Integrative Health & Wellness

One of the greatest lessons I have learned is that you can’t win the fight if you don’t show up. Too often, we render our right away to our opponents by simply not showing up. The opponent of fear, inadequacy, tiredness, and any other negative self-talk that stands in between you and your goal — that new job, that reconciliation of relationship, going back to school, your dream opportunity, etc.

I cannot count how many times the door to course changing opportunities opened for me simply because I took the time to show up. Sometimes the fight is already fixed in your favor. Yes, there are times when you may take a hit or two, and maybe even times you’ll lose, but one thing is for sure and for certain, you cannot win unless you show up! Today, I encourage you to get out of your head and show up.

I hope today’s message has encouraged you on your journey. As always, I thank you for stopping by. Be sure to like, share, and subscribe to this blog. Remember, today is a great day to make a difference in the lives of those around you. Until next time…

Holistic Gardening

Integrative Health & Wellness

As the winter planting season nears its end, take a moment to assess where you are in your life, career/business, finances, relationships, and walk with God. What seeds are you planting and preparing for your holistic winter harvest? 

Just as with your natural garden, you should be mindful of what you’re holistically planting in this season, Not every seed can withstand the change in weather. So you need to plant those things that can persevere and produce a bountiful blessing even in the winter season.

I hope today’s message has encouraged you on your journey. As always, I thank you for stopping by. Be sure to like, share, and subscribe to this blog. Remember, today is a great day to make a difference in the lives of those around you.

Until Next Time…

Be Safe & Be Well,
T. Lynn Tate
The Wholeness Coach

Take The First Step

Integrative Health & Wellness

As I sit here admiring my maturing backyard garden through my patio window, I can’t help but chuckle at myself. For the past four years, all I’ve talked about was starting my backyard garden and all the reasons I hadn’t started it.

At first, it was, “I can’t wait to start my garden, but first, we have to get a fence.” Then we got a fence, and it became, “I can’t wait to start my garden, but I don’t want to put it in the ground. I need some raised garden beds.” Then I found some raised gardens, and it became, “I found some raised garden beds, but I don’t know which one is right for me.” You see the pattern? For every solution, I found another excuse for why I couldn’t get started. But this year, it was different. As COVID-19 brought everyday life to a screeching halt, I decided that it was time for me to stop making excuses and take the first step.

And make no mistake about it, I only had less than half of a clue as to what I was doing LOL. Nevertheless, I got started. The amazing thing was after I got started, the help I needed began to appear. One friend told me where to go and buy my seedlings since I was a little late in starting the process. Another friend told me what type of soil would be best and what plant food to use. Then my cousin came up for the summer and helped me plant and care for it. Now I have plants that are bubbling over and preparing to produce a harvest for my family.

What I realized in the process is that this little backyard lesson I was learning stretched beyond just my garden. It also applied to my life. So many times, we have these great intentions, but absolutely no real follow-through. We’re waiting for the perfect conditions and circumstances to come along, and while we’re waiting, opportunities are passing us by. And yes, some of the “reasons” we give for waiting sound like legitimate reasons, but at the end of the day, most of them are just excuses. Sometimes we have to simply do as Dr. Martin Luther King said, “Take the first step in faith. You don’t have to see the whole staircase, just take the first step.”

Today, take an assessment of your life. What are you putting off starting because you’re waiting for the perfect conditions to move forward? Stop procrastinating and apply some action to your faith. Once you start walking, the resources will begin to reveal themselves to help you get to the next step, and before you know it, your garden will be blossoming too.

I hope today’s message has encouraged you on your journey. As always, I thank you for stopping by. Be sure to like, share, and subscribe to this blog. Remember, today is a great day to make a difference in the lives of those around you. Until next time…

Be Safe & Be Well,
T. Lynn Tate
The Wholeness Coach

Minding Your Health

Integrative Health & Wellness

Having an unexpected panic attack can be very alarming. Oh, did I mention basically all panic attacks happen unexpectedly? I don’t know which was worse; the embarrassment of not being able to control my response to stress and anxiety, or the fear of the panic attack itself. However, life wasn’t always like this for me.

I remember a day where I could take on the world. Balancing 200 plates while working two full-time jobs, one that paid the bills very well, and the other fulfilled my passion for making a difference. I was on top of the world. As life changed over the years, the stress kept mounting, but my weight-bearing capacity was not expanding at the rate of the pressure. The difference was so significant my body started sending warning signals.

To start, I was fatigued almost always, with little to no desire to eat, and slightly depressed. I developed a condition called Primary Raynaud’s Phenomenon, which is a high sensitivity to cold that affects my hands and feet. According to my doctor, it was activated by the high-stress levels in my life. “Nothing to worry about, things will get better,” at least that’s the story I told myself. 

But I made a few changes, lost a few pounds, started a new job, and life was really feeling good. Then, life started getting stressful yet again. With my work commute increasing to about six hours roundtrip, the addition of a demanding and challenging client, and the inability to set boundaries and disconnect from work after hours, I certainly had the recipe for high stress and anxiety. However, this time my body fired off some major warnings with numbness and tingling in my face coupled with random chest pains and panic attacks. After a battery of stress tests and heart sonograms, the doctor informed me I was indeed having the beginning signs of a stress heart attack. He prescribed me some meds and strongly advised me to get my stress levels under control.

The threat of a stress heart attack in my late 30s was a pivotal moment for me. The frank dialogues with my doctors, and my family helped me to realize that I needed to make some changes fast. It wasn’t easy by far, and it took practice, but here’s what I did:

  1. I resolved within myself that I would come to work, work only my 8 hours unless it was an emergency that required me to work longer.
  2. I turned off the audible notifications for my work email. Unless I knew of an emergency reason to check it, I didn’t during non-work hours.
  3. I obtained a personal trainer that fit my budget and schedule. 
  4. I intentionally went to the grocery store weekly and began carrying my breakfast, lunch, and commute snacks with me daily.
  5. On the weekends, I took one day to spend with my family to laugh and have fun, and the other to simply rest and reflect.
  6. Finally, I began to seek out that lane that was purposefully designed for me. When I found it, I turned on my blinker and started moving over in it.

Today, my life is more in balance than it has ever been in years. I have taken my life back, gotten fully in my lane, and regularly mind my health. Yes, I still have moments of stress. As a business owner, it comes with the territory, but it isn’t consistent, and generally doesn’t last long. I encourage you today, start minding your health, and ensure that you are in the right lane. Regularly take an assessment of how you’re doing mind, body, and spirit; and make adjustments whenever necessary. There’s only one of you, and someone out there needs your specific expertise and contribution to this world. 

As always, I thank you for stopping by. Remember, today is a great day to make a difference in the lives of those around you. Until next time…

Be Safe & Be Well,
T. Lynn Tate
The Wholeness Coach

Are You Self-Sabotaging?

Integrative Health & Wellness

A few years ago, I had the privilege to have an impromptu one-on-one dinner with a well-known speaker. As we sat in the small quaint vegan restaurant chatting back and forth, I began sharing with her a little bit of my background and experience. After hearing my story, she looked at me and said, “Oh, so you’ve been self-sabotaging.” I thought, “Wait, what? Why would I sabotage myself?” Then suddenly, the words of a friend came back to my remembrance, “Stop being afraid to succeed.” I didn’t agree with either of their opinions. I mean, who in their right mind would purposely choose not to succeed, right?

The months following that dinner, life decided to show me better than it could tell me exactly what they were talking about. You see, although it wasn’t my intention to sabotage myself, my choices and decisions seemed to suggest otherwise. So let’s take a look at the three behaviors that were setting me back and see if you’ve been doing the same in various areas of your life.

The first thing brought to my attention was procrastination. I had great ideas and great intentions, but when it came time to execute, I would always find a way to delay and put things off. Unfortunately, my luck with that began to wear off. I started missing deadlines, which led to losing opportunity windows, and sometimes, even worse, I took so long that I started seeing my brilliant ideas being brought forth by other people. All because I kept putting things off. As I became aware of this behavior, I took a closer look, and I realized a lot of my procrastination was rooted in fear. Many times I was afraid of what the hypothetical results would be and therefore delayed in applying action to the matters at hand.

Then I discovered procrastination had a friend called constantly comparing yourself to others. Listen, if I thought procrastination was a doozy, this one right here surely held me captive. I would look at other people’s lives and see their success, immediately comparing my apples to their oranges. Then convince myself that I must not be worthy or have what it takes because, despite the similarities, I wasn’t getting the same successes as them. I did this with my career, relationships, material possessions, and more, never realizing or taking into account what that person had to go through to get to that point in their lives. To often, these comparisons would dictate my narrative of self-worth and value.

Finally, because I struggled with procrastination and comparing myself to others, I realized it put me in a POOR state of mind. What’s POOR? It’s a state of mind where I was Passing Over Opportunities Repeatedly. Whether it was fear of failing, not feeling qualified enough, or simply the opportunity didn’t look like what I thought it should be, I was always missing out or not following through on opportunities that could have led me to the success I so desired. When you put it all together, yes, I was self-sabotaging.

However, all was not lost. In discovering that I had been self-sabotaging, I also gained some much-needed wisdom to help avoid doing the same going forward. First, when you are walking in your purpose, there is always room for you at the table. Yes, you may be doing the same thing someone else is doing, but you each have your own niche and uniqueness to bring to the table. Next, appearances can be deceiving. You may see someone’s success on the outside, but you don’t know how much that person had to go through before they achieved the success you see today. Lastly, give your self a break. It’s a marathon, not a sprint, and perfection is in no way required.

So now that you see how I did it ask yourself, have you to been self-sabotaging? As always, I thank you for stopping by. Remember, today is a great day to make a difference in the lives of those around you. Oh, and don’t forget to share the love and Like, Love, Share and Subscribe to our blog, so you don’t miss a beat. Until next time…

Be Safe and Be Well,
T. Lynn Tate
The Wholeness Coach

Changing My Tune

Integrative Health & Wellness

Have you ever felt like your mind just runs on a loop, and replays incidents and things spoken to you over and over like a broken record, especially the bad and hurtful ones? You want to get over it, but every time you start moving forward, that thing skips and goes on a repeat cycle.

For years I struggled with the battle of the repeat cycle in my mind. Every conversation, argument, uncomfortable incident, rejection, disappointment, and everything I should have said would play relentlessly over and over again in my mind. Often times it replayed so much, especially when I was quiet and by myself, that literally I would start responding out loud as if the incident were happening right then and there. It was something that made me feel bad, yet something I had no clue how to stop. I couldn’t seem to pray it away, wish it away, or even throw it away for that matter, believe me, I tried.

Then one day, I discovered a technique I like to call “Talk Back.” I was blessed to learn the principle of the Law of Attraction along with some practical ways to apply it in my life and in my thinking. So, I took that and coupled it with a Sunday school scripture I learned that said the power of life and death is in your tongue, and started to talk back to those negative soundtracks. In doing this, I began to take my power back and created a new song.

Here’s how it works, when the song in your head says, “Nobody will ever love you,” then you talk back and say, “I am surrounded by love.” If it says, “You can’t do this,” then you proclaim, “Yes I can, because The Lord is my helper. I look in triumph on my enemies.” Every time negative thoughts and imaginations try to come in like a flood, you talk back declaring what it will be. Today, make your declaration, “I will cast down every thought and imagination that tries to exalt itself above the knowledge of God.” It’s time to take your power back!

As always, I thank you for stopping by. Remember today is a great day to make a difference in the lives of those around you. Until next time…

Be Safe & Be Well,
T. Lynn Tate
The Wholeness Coach

4 Steps to a Sustainable Lifestyle Change

Integrative Health & Wellness

Six months ago, I embarked on a path that is literally changing and transforming my life. I became a Vegan. Not because I had family and friends persuading me to convert, or because it was the latest and greatest fad. I chose to transition because it was the best decision for me and my health. I did the yo-yo dieting, the latest and greatest fads, and even tried various nutritional lifestyles. While I did lose weight on most of them, nothing seemed to be sustainable for me.

In looking back, I realized that I was going about this thing the wrong way. First of all, I wasn’t looking at it from a holistic perspective. So I wasn’t taking into account how my mental and emotional stress was impacting my health. I ate decent, most of the time, and I exercised moderately, but when I became stressed I would go into starvation mode, focused and not eating or moving for hours and hours at a time. My cortisol was through the roof and my body was holding on to everything I ate good or bad. I was an individual but trying to fix my weight issues with a cookie-cutter approach. Over the past few years, I’ve taken a step back and really gotten in tune with myself and my health, and now I want to share with you how I have been able to consistently stick with my vegan journey. Note this is not a plug to convert you to vegan, but it is a way for you to sustainably achieve your healthy lifestyle goals.

The first thing I did was learn how to be in tune with myself and my health, and might I add this is a continuous process. I journaled my food, my moods, actions, and discovered my stress triggers in the process. I began to research and explore the various nutritional lifestyles to see which might be a good fit for me. I even did a test drive on a few of them to see just how much of a fit they were or were not. But when I decided to go vegan something was different. I found myself researching in a way I hadn’t done before. I researched not only what you could and could not eat, but I began to research how to make my favorite dishes with vegan substitutes. While I researched, I courted vegan by sampling vegan foods.

After completing my research and realizing this was the best option for me, I began to make a plan. I decided rather than jump in with both feet, as I had done with previous attempts at nutritional lifestyle changes, I would convert in phases. See jumping in with both feet often led me to crash and burn, because the moment I would misstep or fall off the wagon it was so hard to get back on track. So this time, I was going to take my time and give myself permission and room to make mistakes. I called this phase, “The Road to Vegan,” and I gave myself six months to fully convert. During this phase, I set a plan to phase out different non-vegan foods each month. I also did a full body detox close toward the end of this phase to help reset my body and taste buds. Man, this took so much pressure off the process for me and allowed me time to really embrace this new lifestyle.

Thanksgiving rolled around and as my mom and I prepared family dinner, I looked over at her and said, “This is my last meal like this. Christmas I will be eating my first vegan holiday meal.” Sure enough, a couple days later I woke up and said that’s it, today I commit to full vegan from this point on. And guess what, it didn’t take me the full six months to convert. Because of my research and planning, I was able to organically flow right on into this new lifestyle, and have been walking in it consistently for six months now, and I’m loving it.

But don’t let the smooth taste fool you, it takes effort, and I’ve had to make some additional adjustments along the way. There were foods that I was eating and didn’t even realize the hidden ingredients in them. But when I find that I have been eating something that doesn’t fall within the lifestyle, I don’t quit. I simply remove it from my diet and keep it moving. My overall holistic health is improving, the scale is going down, and I feel great! The one thing I constantly remind myself of is this is a marathon, not a sprint. So if you’re trying to make a lifestyle change and looking for sustainability, remember the key steps: Research, Plan, Execute, and Adjust.

As always, I thank you for stopping by. Remember today is a great day to make a difference in the lives of those around you. Until next time…

Be Safe & Be Well,
T. Lynn Tate
The Wholeness Coach

Getting to the Finish Line

Inspirational, Integrative Health & Wellness

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When you set out to accomplish your vision, goals, and dreams, you have to know that you’re going to go through something to get to its fruition. As we move forward this year in pursuit of our visions and dreams, there are three things you must know that will help navigate these often emotional waters.

First, you must let go of how you thought it would be. When our vision and dreams are revealed to us, we automatically begin imagining what it will be like to fulfill it, and we set our expectations based on that imagination. The excitement of the end result often leads us straight to the glory of the accomplishment, but leaves us short on the expectations of what it will take to get there. Because we have already set our expectations of what we think the process will be like, when obstacles and distractions enter the picture, we have a hard time adjusting. What you have to understand is not making the adjustment, and continuously remaining focused on what you envisioned the process to be like will keep you frustrated, angry, dismayed, and blinded to the opportunities for growth and development in your situation.

You also need to get comfortable with being uncomfortable. It’s easy to sit back and go with the flow, but the flow isn’t always going in the direction that’s best for you. The Holy Bible says it best, “Everything is permissible, but not everything is beneficial.” When you sit back and go with the flow the current carries you, and usually doesn’t require you to do much work. You’re able to just coast through life. But it’s the rough waters, rocky terrain, hills, and valleys, that uncomfortable friction and stretching, that develops you. In the words of Denzel Washington, “Ease is the greatest threat to progress.” So if you really want to live a full life, and see your visions and dreams manifest, you must get comfortable with being uncomfortable.

Finally, you must learn to utilize S.E.I. , Spiritual Emotional Intelligence. What is that? It’s the capacity to be aware of, control, and express your emotions, while being spiritually centered. While emotions are a natural human response, in most cases we are responding to circumstances and situations on a surface level without knowing or looking at the big picture. Yes, there will be disappointments, setbacks, misunderstandings, and general distractions. There will be times when you want to quit, and the way seems too hard. But during these times, you must remember to stay spiritually centered.  Take your focus off of the problem, spiritually center yourself, and put your eyes back on the big picture. By doing this, you will become solution driven and able to discern opportunities for growth and development along your journey. If you’re emotionally all over the place you will self sabotage every time.

While life may not be presenting you with the picture of what you thought it would be, don’t allow your expectations, comfort, and emotions to take you on a ride that leads you further away from your ultimate goal. As always, thanks for stopping by. Please like, share, and follow this blog. And remember, today is a great day to make a difference in the lives of those around you.