Changing My Tune

Integrative Health & Wellness

Have you ever felt like your mind just runs on a loop, and replays incidents and things spoken to you over and over like a broken record, especially the bad and hurtful ones? You want to get over it, but every time you start moving forward, that thing skips and goes on a repeat cycle.

For years I struggled with the battle of the repeat cycle in my mind. Every conversation, argument, uncomfortable incident, rejection, disappointment, and everything I should have said would play relentlessly over and over again in my mind. Often times it replayed so much, especially when I was quiet and by myself, that literally I would start responding out loud as if the incident were happening right then and there. It was something that made me feel bad, yet something I had no clue how to stop. I couldn’t seem to pray it away, wish it away, or even throw it away for that matter, believe me, I tried.

Then one day, I discovered a technique I like to call “Talk Back.” I was blessed to learn the principle of the Law of Attraction along with some practical ways to apply it in my life and in my thinking. So, I took that and coupled it with a Sunday school scripture I learned that said the power of life and death is in your tongue, and started to talk back to those negative soundtracks. In doing this, I began to take my power back and created a new song.

Here’s how it works, when the song in your head says, “Nobody will ever love you,” then you talk back and say, “I am surrounded by love.” If it says, “You can’t do this,” then you proclaim, “Yes I can, because The Lord is my helper. I look in triumph on my enemies.” Every time negative thoughts and imaginations try to come in like a flood, you talk back declaring what it will be. Today, make your declaration, “I will cast down every thought and imagination that tries to exalt itself above the knowledge of God.” It’s time to take your power back!

As always, I thank you for stopping by. Remember today is a great day to make a difference in the lives of those around you. Until next time…

Be Safe & Be Well,
T. Lynn Tate
The Wholeness Coach

4 Steps to a Sustainable Lifestyle Change

Integrative Health & Wellness

Six months ago, I embarked on a path that is literally changing and transforming my life. I became a Vegan. Not because I had family and friends persuading me to convert, or because it was the latest and greatest fad. I chose to transition because it was the best decision for me and my health. I did the yo-yo dieting, the latest and greatest fads, and even tried various nutritional lifestyles. While I did lose weight on most of them, nothing seemed to be sustainable for me.

In looking back, I realized that I was going about this thing the wrong way. First of all, I wasn’t looking at it from a holistic perspective. So I wasn’t taking into account how my mental and emotional stress was impacting my health. I ate decent, most of the time, and I exercised moderately, but when I became stressed I would go into starvation mode, focused and not eating or moving for hours and hours at a time. My cortisol was through the roof and my body was holding on to everything I ate good or bad. I was an individual but trying to fix my weight issues with a cookie-cutter approach. Over the past few years, I’ve taken a step back and really gotten in tune with myself and my health, and now I want to share with you how I have been able to consistently stick with my vegan journey. Note this is not a plug to convert you to vegan, but it is a way for you to sustainably achieve your healthy lifestyle goals.

The first thing I did was learn how to be in tune with myself and my health, and might I add this is a continuous process. I journaled my food, my moods, actions, and discovered my stress triggers in the process. I began to research and explore the various nutritional lifestyles to see which might be a good fit for me. I even did a test drive on a few of them to see just how much of a fit they were or were not. But when I decided to go vegan something was different. I found myself researching in a way I hadn’t done before. I researched not only what you could and could not eat, but I began to research how to make my favorite dishes with vegan substitutes. While I researched, I courted vegan by sampling vegan foods.

After completing my research and realizing this was the best option for me, I began to make a plan. I decided rather than jump in with both feet, as I had done with previous attempts at nutritional lifestyle changes, I would convert in phases. See jumping in with both feet often led me to crash and burn, because the moment I would misstep or fall off the wagon it was so hard to get back on track. So this time, I was going to take my time and give myself permission and room to make mistakes. I called this phase, “The Road to Vegan,” and I gave myself six months to fully convert. During this phase, I set a plan to phase out different non-vegan foods each month. I also did a full body detox close toward the end of this phase to help reset my body and taste buds. Man, this took so much pressure off the process for me and allowed me time to really embrace this new lifestyle.

Thanksgiving rolled around and as my mom and I prepared family dinner, I looked over at her and said, “This is my last meal like this. Christmas I will be eating my first vegan holiday meal.” Sure enough, a couple days later I woke up and said that’s it, today I commit to full vegan from this point on. And guess what, it didn’t take me the full six months to convert. Because of my research and planning, I was able to organically flow right on into this new lifestyle, and have been walking in it consistently for six months now, and I’m loving it.

But don’t let the smooth taste fool you, it takes effort, and I’ve had to make some additional adjustments along the way. There were foods that I was eating and didn’t even realize the hidden ingredients in them. But when I find that I have been eating something that doesn’t fall within the lifestyle, I don’t quit. I simply remove it from my diet and keep it moving. My overall holistic health is improving, the scale is going down, and I feel great! The one thing I constantly remind myself of is this is a marathon, not a sprint. So if you’re trying to make a lifestyle change and looking for sustainability, remember the key steps: Research, Plan, Execute, and Adjust.

As always, I thank you for stopping by. Remember today is a great day to make a difference in the lives of those around you. Until next time…

Be Safe & Be Well,
T. Lynn Tate
The Wholeness Coach

Getting to the Finish Line

Inspirational, Integrative Health & Wellness

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When you set out to accomplish your vision, goals, and dreams, you have to know that you’re going to go through something to get to its fruition. As we move forward this year in pursuit of our visions and dreams, there are three things you must know that will help navigate these often emotional waters.

First, you must let go of how you thought it would be. When our vision and dreams are revealed to us, we automatically begin imagining what it will be like to fulfill it, and we set our expectations based on that imagination. The excitement of the end result often leads us straight to the glory of the accomplishment, but leaves us short on the expectations of what it will take to get there. Because we have already set our expectations of what we think the process will be like, when obstacles and distractions enter the picture, we have a hard time adjusting. What you have to understand is not making the adjustment, and continuously remaining focused on what you envisioned the process to be like will keep you frustrated, angry, dismayed, and blinded to the opportunities for growth and development in your situation.

You also need to get comfortable with being uncomfortable. It’s easy to sit back and go with the flow, but the flow isn’t always going in the direction that’s best for you. The Holy Bible says it best, “Everything is permissible, but not everything is beneficial.” When you sit back and go with the flow the current carries you, and usually doesn’t require you to do much work. You’re able to just coast through life. But it’s the rough waters, rocky terrain, hills, and valleys, that uncomfortable friction and stretching, that develops you. In the words of Denzel Washington, “Ease is the greatest threat to progress.” So if you really want to live a full life, and see your visions and dreams manifest, you must get comfortable with being uncomfortable.

Finally, you must learn to utilize S.E.I. , Spiritual Emotional Intelligence. What is that? It’s the capacity to be aware of, control, and express your emotions, while being spiritually centered. While emotions are a natural human response, in most cases we are responding to circumstances and situations on a surface level without knowing or looking at the big picture. Yes, there will be disappointments, setbacks, misunderstandings, and general distractions. There will be times when you want to quit, and the way seems too hard. But during these times, you must remember to stay spiritually centered.  Take your focus off of the problem, spiritually center yourself, and put your eyes back on the big picture. By doing this, you will become solution driven and able to discern opportunities for growth and development along your journey. If you’re emotionally all over the place you will self sabotage every time.

While life may not be presenting you with the picture of what you thought it would be, don’t allow your expectations, comfort, and emotions to take you on a ride that leads you further away from your ultimate goal. As always, thanks for stopping by. Please like, share, and follow this blog. And remember, today is a great day to make a difference in the lives of those around you.